Navigate Family on Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is supposed to be all about gratitude, but let’s be real—dealing with family can be a lot. Whether it's nosy questions, unwanted advice, or that one relative who loves to stir the pot, navigating the holiday table can feel more like a social obstacle course than a cozy family gathering. But don’t worry—I’ve got you covered with tips to make it through Thanksgiving without losing your cool (or your appetite).​

 

Brace for the “What Are You Doing with Your Life?” Interrogation

You know it’s coming. Someone is bound to ask about your career, relationship, or that “backup plan” they’re convinced you need. Instead of panicking, prep a few light responses:

• “I’m exploring my options and loving the journey!”

• “My current plan? Survive this dinner!”
  This keeps things polite while subtly letting them know you’re not here for unsolicited life coaching.​

 

Redirect the Conversation

If things get too personal, shift the focus. Ask about their latest hobby, favorite recipe, or a funny childhood memory. People love talking about themselves, and it gets the heat off you. Bonus points for creating a warmer, more connected vibe at the table.

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Set Boundaries Without Drama

If a topic crosses a line, it’s okay to stand up for yourself calmly:

• “I’d rather not talk about that today, but I’d love to hear about [insert safe topic].”
  You’re not being rude—you’re protecting your peace. Boundaries can coexist with kindness.​

 

 The Silent MVP: Your Phone

In moments when you need a breather, excuse yourself to “check on something” and take a few minutes to reset. Scroll through cute dog pics, text a friend, or just breathe. Sometimes, a little digital escape is all you need.

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Find an Ally

Team up with a sibling, cousin, or even a cool aunt who gets it. You can exchange looks, share inside jokes, or rescue each other when conversations go south. Thanksgiving is easier when you have someone in your corner.

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Practice Gratitude (Even When It’s Hard)

Yes, some moments will test your patience, but focusing on what you do appreciate can make a huge difference. Whether it’s a family tradition, a favorite dish, or just the fact that you’re not cooking, gratitude can keep your spirits up when things get tense.​

 

Eat the pie, dodge the drama, and give yourself a little credit for showing up with grace and grit. Happy Thanksgiving! 💖

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-Sophie Psychologist